Crushing Mum Guilt?

CRUSHING MUM GUILT?
Let’s look UNDERNEATH it instead…

When we shout, explode, get grumpy, snap and rage clean are we “bad” mums?? NO!!!! But the guilt is crushing. We beat ourselves up and feel like it’s another piece of evidence today we’re not good at this mum thing.

Let’s stop there and look underneath the behaviour… that behaviour is telling me that you’re likely over full, stretched, burnt out, spinning so many plates, juggling so many balls, and trying to be super mum.
That behaviour tells me you need support and validation. Someone on your team to help you turn to you.

Just like when a child displays behaviour that we wouldn’t want, they’re not a bad child - they’re literally acting out what’s inside them. And so do we. BUT then, we attach to our behaviour and feel that we’re the worst mums because we lost it at our kids.

As a motherhood coach, if I have a mama sitting in front of me telling me how she snaps at her kids, is grumpy with her husband, cries in the shower, I’m not sitting there thinking “Wow, she’s an awful Mum”, No - I’m thinking “Wow, let’s look underneath the behaviour and find out what’s really happening for her, and then we can shift it.” It’s really powerful stuff.

Please reach out if this is resonating with you, my inbox is always open for you

Sally xx